Random Thoughts from a Muslimah!
The most common meaning of “Islam” is “Peace”- all of us know this. But do we really understand the meaning of this “Peace”? Actually this peace is the Tranquility that one gets after submitting his own self to Allah, which includes doing things for Allah and also leaving things disliked by Allah. And in return the most expensive gift we get in this world is the “Peace”.
That day my husband and I were discussing about “Being sad.” He said “In most cases, a person is depressed or sad because he is too attached to this Dunya and is not doing things Allah created him for. A person should be busy in gaining knowledge (of Islam) and purifying himself, otherwise he has too much time and the only thing he keeps himself busy with is by thinking about unnecessary stuffs and hence being “sad”. And I totally agreed with him.
If my Eeman (faith) is strong and I am busy studying and acting on them, I would be less bothered about what people are doing, what they are not doing, what I deserverd and what I got etc etc. So feeling sad in many cases are results of less Islamic understanding. As a remedy Allah says in the Quran – “Verily in the remembrance of Allah the hearts find rest”. Reading the Quran and asking Allah for cure can be a good start.
Another thing I want to talk about is ‘Ego’ or ‘Pride’, whose opposite is ‘humility’. We tend to create some expectations from people and if they cannot meet our expectations we are sad! At first we should think “Are we expecting the right thing? And do I deserve that particular thing?” We in our subconscious mind think of ourselves better and superior to some people around us based on our judgement. But Muhammad (SM) said –
An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a black has no superiority over white, nor a white has any superiority over black, except by piety and good action (Taqwa).
So next time we scoff at our subordinates for not doing a particular work exactly the way we wanted we should think twice before saying anything. Only Allah knows who is more superior in His sight. Even the slaves at the time of Prophet Muhammad (SM) had better knowledge and understanding of Islam than us (with so many academic degrees) today. Yes they were illiterate but they feared and loved Allah more than us, and that surely makes them better than us. We should strive to grow Humility in our hearts.
In fact, when we come to Islam, the first thing we should do is to purify our hearts. Afterall it’s the heart that matters most in the sight of Allah. Always trying to please the Lord gives a higher purpose in life which causes the daily tidbits of life seem insignificant.
Another way of being calm and serene is by trying to improve ourselves by checking our intentions every now and then. All our worship and good deeds can be useless if done with wrong intention (or for wrong person). The only deserving Deity is our Lord – Allah.
Think of how beautiful Islam is! We dedicate all our good acts to our Creator, even if it is just serving our husbands. We do not merely do it because we love them, rather we do it because Allah has ordered us to do so. Pleasing Allah gives us the peace which no other worldly thing can give us.
But we do the opposite, we are too much concerned about what people think of us so much so that when people insult us we feel sad. In the Book “Don’t be Sad” the author ‘Aidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni (translated by Faisal Ibn Muhammad Shafeeq) writes “You will be rewarded if you show forbearance to their criticism and to their impertinent remarks. The more they criticize you, the more you are increased in worth, because only someone who is unaccomplished has no one who is jealous of him” (pg 115). People love to talk, gossip and make fun of others. We cannot stop them. All we can do is ignore and ask Allah for something better in return.
One day my husband and I were discussing about one of his close relatives who is now dead. I was telling him it was so nice how people praise her so much. And having met her and spent time with her I also loved her. He then told me even she wasn’t spared from filthy gossips and backbiting! The same people, now showering praise words for her, at times used to talk ill off her! I was shocked! How could people hate such a nice person! So this is very normal. All we should care about is what Allah thinks not what these people think about us.
We are the slaves of Allah who sin continuously. Only the Mercy of Allah can protect us from His wrath. We should seek forgiveness frequently and ask Allah to fix us. We do not have time for even being sad, Life is too short for all these, we need to be active and keep ourselves busy in righteous actions. I recommend all my brothers and sisters to read the book “Don’t be Sad”.
At last I ask Allah to bless us and forgive us. There is a Hadeeth which says “ If Allah wants good for someone He blesses him with the understanding of Islam.” O Allah make us amongst them, Guide us to your deen and let not our hearts deviate after you have guided them to the Truth. Ameen.
source : https://hridoyeislamdotcom.wordpress.com/2012/04/25/random-thoughts-from-a-muslimah
That day my husband and I were discussing about “Being sad.” He said “In most cases, a person is depressed or sad because he is too attached to this Dunya and is not doing things Allah created him for. A person should be busy in gaining knowledge (of Islam) and purifying himself, otherwise he has too much time and the only thing he keeps himself busy with is by thinking about unnecessary stuffs and hence being “sad”. And I totally agreed with him.
If my Eeman (faith) is strong and I am busy studying and acting on them, I would be less bothered about what people are doing, what they are not doing, what I deserverd and what I got etc etc. So feeling sad in many cases are results of less Islamic understanding. As a remedy Allah says in the Quran – “Verily in the remembrance of Allah the hearts find rest”. Reading the Quran and asking Allah for cure can be a good start.
Another thing I want to talk about is ‘Ego’ or ‘Pride’, whose opposite is ‘humility’. We tend to create some expectations from people and if they cannot meet our expectations we are sad! At first we should think “Are we expecting the right thing? And do I deserve that particular thing?” We in our subconscious mind think of ourselves better and superior to some people around us based on our judgement. But Muhammad (SM) said –
An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a black has no superiority over white, nor a white has any superiority over black, except by piety and good action (Taqwa).
So next time we scoff at our subordinates for not doing a particular work exactly the way we wanted we should think twice before saying anything. Only Allah knows who is more superior in His sight. Even the slaves at the time of Prophet Muhammad (SM) had better knowledge and understanding of Islam than us (with so many academic degrees) today. Yes they were illiterate but they feared and loved Allah more than us, and that surely makes them better than us. We should strive to grow Humility in our hearts.
In fact, when we come to Islam, the first thing we should do is to purify our hearts. Afterall it’s the heart that matters most in the sight of Allah. Always trying to please the Lord gives a higher purpose in life which causes the daily tidbits of life seem insignificant.
Another way of being calm and serene is by trying to improve ourselves by checking our intentions every now and then. All our worship and good deeds can be useless if done with wrong intention (or for wrong person). The only deserving Deity is our Lord – Allah.
Think of how beautiful Islam is! We dedicate all our good acts to our Creator, even if it is just serving our husbands. We do not merely do it because we love them, rather we do it because Allah has ordered us to do so. Pleasing Allah gives us the peace which no other worldly thing can give us.
But we do the opposite, we are too much concerned about what people think of us so much so that when people insult us we feel sad. In the Book “Don’t be Sad” the author ‘Aidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni (translated by Faisal Ibn Muhammad Shafeeq) writes “You will be rewarded if you show forbearance to their criticism and to their impertinent remarks. The more they criticize you, the more you are increased in worth, because only someone who is unaccomplished has no one who is jealous of him” (pg 115). People love to talk, gossip and make fun of others. We cannot stop them. All we can do is ignore and ask Allah for something better in return.
One day my husband and I were discussing about one of his close relatives who is now dead. I was telling him it was so nice how people praise her so much. And having met her and spent time with her I also loved her. He then told me even she wasn’t spared from filthy gossips and backbiting! The same people, now showering praise words for her, at times used to talk ill off her! I was shocked! How could people hate such a nice person! So this is very normal. All we should care about is what Allah thinks not what these people think about us.
We are the slaves of Allah who sin continuously. Only the Mercy of Allah can protect us from His wrath. We should seek forgiveness frequently and ask Allah to fix us. We do not have time for even being sad, Life is too short for all these, we need to be active and keep ourselves busy in righteous actions. I recommend all my brothers and sisters to read the book “Don’t be Sad”.
At last I ask Allah to bless us and forgive us. There is a Hadeeth which says “ If Allah wants good for someone He blesses him with the understanding of Islam.” O Allah make us amongst them, Guide us to your deen and let not our hearts deviate after you have guided them to the Truth. Ameen.
source : https://hridoyeislamdotcom.wordpress.com/2012/04/25/random-thoughts-from-a-muslimah
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